Ten things your children will thank you for...
When parents separate or divorce, it can be tough for their
children to come to terms with. Relationship breakdown between
parents inevitably affects relationships with their children and it
can be difficult to avoid negativity. However, by taking a positive
and non-confrontational approach to a split it is possible to
maintain, and even strengthen, parent-child relationships. Our top
ten tips will help you to do this...
10 Things your children will thank you for:
- Keeping arguments away from the children and avoiding criticism
of the other parent
- Being able to talk to the other parent about their needs (even
though that is hard sometimes)
- Allowing them to miss the other parent and make contact when
they want to, even encouraging contact when you think they might
want it
- Recognising they have feelings which might be confusing and
contradictory
- Asking what they think and listening to what they say (but not
making them responsible for decisions)
- Valuing them as developing people with their own friends and
networks
- Remembering they can cope with different rules so long as they
know what to expect in each household
- Being consistent about arrangements made and not letting them
down
- Being flexible to their changing needs
- KNOWING THEY LOVE YOU BOTH AND WANT TO EXPRESS THEIR LOVE